Here is some perspective...
Dante, why don't you talk with me anymore?
This is a great question. I actually get asked this question on a weekly basis. The short answer is that Im very busy! Here is the long answer:)
When I originally made UO Evolution it was easy to greet new players, give tours etc. when you have 25 players online, but now with over 800+ players on daily I have had to distance myself from the personal aspects of the game and concentrate on the managing of the content, balance and economy.
It's not that I dont want to talk with every player daily, but it just becomes impossible. I spend 12+ hours a day doing customer service, answering pages, developing, facebook, teamspeak, forums, wiki, phone, texts, pokes, pms, chat, irc the volume gets rather overwhelming especially when you have a large player base online 24 hrs a day from around the world, that wants your attention.
I sometimes get over 250 PMs a day, even if I spend 1 minute reading and responding to each one that is over 4.5 hours of my time just to give a "short" responce.
* I have answered over 23,000 pages since the revert, avg of 255 a day!
* Made over 2000 accounts, refunded every ED donated to every player from the last year
* Ive been online 12-18 hours a day, 7 days a week for the last 4 years!
* Rebuilt 1 year of deco, scripts, accts in 3 months
* Added back 1 year of missing info on the wiki, updated forums, updated website
* Made 29 Updates in 3 months to add back old content, make new content and repair anything broken
I have learned over time if you become "too" friendly with the players they expect free items, favoritism and special treatment which is very hard to keep the perception of your shard as fair and balanced to everyone. The reputation of the shard and my personal reputation of being nice and fair is very important to me
I still make an effort to personally answer every page and have an "open door" policy with the players and allow input on the direction of the server through the forums.
At this point I seem to get to know all the negative players better that I really want to, because of their bad behavior, rather that enjoy my time with the players that make the community great!
Bottom line is that running a shard is no easy task, and if you dont have access to the top admin developer and owner, it's probably not personal, we are busy behind the scenes working hard to manage a fun world for you to enjoy!
Admin Dante - Owner - UO Evolution Custom Ultima Online Shard
Website - http://www.uoevolution.com
Forum - http://www.uoevo.com/forum
Wiki - http://www.uoevo.com/wiki
Discord - http://www.discord.gg/JwEBhPH